People suck some days!!
Do you ever have one of those weeks where it seems like the people around you don’t realize how rude or mean they are being to others? Whether is misdirected aggression or people just not caring how they treat others.
This week has been one of those weeks for me. I am an overly caring person to people in my inner circle and some days that means I’m the subject of misdirected aggression or attitudes and let me tell you it’s not fun.
I always try to make sure everyone is ok over myself and some days that wreaks havoc on my mental health. I know I’m not alone in being that way. I always need a reminder to worry more about my mental health over others because at the end of the day they might feel better but at what cost to me. They aren’t going to be sitting there checking on my mental health or asking how I’m doing because I’m always the one checking on everyone else.
A couple years ago I read something online about mental health that was referring to always making everyone a priority over yourself. It said a good test to see what kind of people you are surround by is to stop being the first person to text everyone. Either your world will get really quiet or nothing will change.
For me my world got really quiet and that opened my eyes to how much I was putting on myself trying to take care of everyone else but when I needed a friend to vent after a long or stressful day I only had a handful of people. That made me take a step back and reevaluate my life and whether I was truely happy or just putting up a front to make sure everyone else was ok. Since then every couple of months when I’m feeling overwhelmed in life I do the same thing I take a step back and get quiet to clear my mind. Those that really care will reach out to check on me. If you don’t have a circle of friends no matter the size that will do that then you need new friends. Regardless of how long you’ve known someone or how close you think you are to them if they don’t realize a shift in your behavior even a slight one then how close are you really? Is it mutual or just one sided?
Being the punching bag for other people’s issues is not a way to dominate the world and show everyone how unstoppable and determined you are to achieve your goals in life.
On that note I’m going to leave you with this. Make sure your are the priority in life, kick ass at everything you do and don’t let others dull your fire.
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